Such
expansion does not usually occur so dramatically. It is more
typically a gradual progression, where the person wakes up one
day and wonders, "How in heck did I get this way?"
But, in this overly dramatic example, what elements did you
identify?
Though
there could be many more, the observations will be limited to
the following ten: Sensory (visual); Suspense; Danger; Fantasy
(delusional); Accomplishment; Sensory (touch); Sensory (smell);
Sensory (taste); Fantasy (imagery) and Orgasm. To begin
the process of mapping out our compulsive chain, we will need
to draw ten triangles as follows:
| #1
Sensory (visual)
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
#2
Suspense
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
#3
Danger
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
#4
Fantasy (delusional)
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
#5
Accomplishment
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
| #6
Sensory (touch)
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
#7
Sensory (smell)
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
#8
Sensory (taste)
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
#9
Fantasy (imagery)
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
#10
Orgasm
Side
#1= Time
Side
#2= Intensity
Side
#3= Habit |
After
labeling each triangle, it becomes necessary to assign each
a numerical value. The number (1, 2 or 3) that will be entered
in the center of the triangle will directly correspond to how
that behavior fits in the following assessment scale:
3-Primary
Behavior
Includes any element that plays a primary role in the ritual.
In this case, it would be Sensory (visual). Without it,
the voyeuristic act would not exist. The Sensory (sight) triangle
would be assigned the number "3".
Another
possible primary behavior could be Fantasy (delusional)
if the only reason that he is voyeuring is because of a belief
that this woman is "the one". We will assume that
he has a pattern of voyeuring with or without this feeling and
so the only essential behavior (primary behavior) is the visual
sensory stimulation.
In
other chains, there may be multiple elements that are assigned
as the primary behavior. An example of this would be in a "date
rape" situation where part of the ritual is to incapacitate
their victim (through intoxication, Ruphenol, etc.), the second
is to achieve complete Power over their victim once they are
incapacitated. A third possible element involving Orgasm could
also be assigned (if having an orgasm is essential to the completion
of the ritual). Likewise, there could also be a fourth element,
or a fifth...it all depends on the individual and their particular
rituals. In such a chain, if even one of these essential elements
is not met, the ritualistic chain is broken and the behavior
does not provide the emotional relief that was being sought.
Most chains, however, involve only one primary behavior, and
the remainder are Secondary and/or Accessory behaviors.
2-Secondary
Behavior
Includes any element that occurs as a direct result of the ritual
being performed. In this case, it will be Suspense, Danger,
Fantasy and Accomplishment. These four triangles will be
assigned the number "2". A case could be made to add
Fantasy (delusional) and/or Fantasy (imagery) as secondary behaviors,
and they very well might be. In this particular scenario however,
we will assume that Dave fantasized through choice only, rather
than as a natural extension of his Sensory stimulation. Therefore,
they would be classified as Accessories.
1-Accessory
Behavior
Includes any element that is voluntarily added to the ritual
to deliberately increase the overall stimulation that is achieved.
In this case, it will be Sensory (touch), Sensory (smell),
Sensory (smell); Fantasy (imagery) and Orgasm. These elements
will be assigned the number "1".
Other
frequently used accessory elements include Poly-addictions (getting
high before acting out) and Sensory (introducing people, pornography,
stolen objects into the sexual act; masturbation). Orgasm (which
is rarely a primary behavior, except when Masturbation is a
primary element as well), is most often used as a means of closure
to a more extensive ritualistic chain-rather than as a primary
element.
These
ten elements combine to become what is know as the "ritualistic
chain" for that specific compulsive act. Some chains can
be quite simple, requiring one or two triangles; some can be
quite complex-involving literally hundreds of elements. This
is usually the case in extreme addictions where the person displaying
the behavior has lost almost complete touch with reality. Their
entire life becomes comprised of ritualistic behavior that serves
to comfort them. Most however, will involve between three and
seven elements.
At
this point, Dave's ritualistic chain for his voyeuristic act
would look as follows:
| Sensory
(visual)= 3
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Suspense=
2
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Danger=
2
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Fantasy
(delusional)= 2
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Accomplishment=
2
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
| Sensory
(touch)= 1
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Sensory
(smell)= 1
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Sensory
(taste)= 1
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Fantasy
(imagery)= 1
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Orgasm=
1
Time=
Intensity=
Habit= |
Keep
in mind that, as you begin identifying your own ritualistic
chains, it will be the thoughts and emotions that accompany
your behavior which will provide the greatest clue as to whether
a particular element should be classified as a primary, secondary
or accessory behavior. Someone who views pornography as their
primary behavior will not have the same type of ritualistic
chains as someone else who also views pornography as their primary
behavior. The types of pornography, the amount of pornography,
the situations the pornography is used in, the additional elements
that are included when viewing pornography-these are only some
of the variables that need to be considered when beginning to
measure your own compulsions.
Once
the elements in the ritualistic chain have been identified,
each isolated element must then pass through the filters of
Time, Intensity and Habituation. Like the elements, these
three abstract filters will be replaced by concrete numerical
values. Unlike the elements, each filter has its own scale:
TIME
Scale:
(10-1, 0)
When considering the effect of Time on a particular element,
the closer an element comes to the threshold of Time, the higher
the number that will be assigned. Take for example, nipple stimulation
[Sensory (touch)]. In a perfect situation, the amount of time
spent stimulating the nipples will have brought the sensations
to their absolute peak. The assigned value would be "10".
Should the stimulation actually reach (or surpass) the threshold,
making what was once a pleasurable experience now irritating
or painful, the assigned value would be a "0". The
importance of this will be apparent as we continue.
The
following values will be assigned to the Time filter (Time)
of each element:
| Sensory
(visual)= 3
Time=
8
Intensity=
Habit= |
Suspense=
2
Time
= 4
Intensity=
Habit= |
Danger=
2
Time=
4
Intensity=
Habit= |
Fantasy
(delusional)= 2
Time=
7
Intensity=
Habit= |
Accomplishment=
2
Time=
9
Intensity=
Habit= |
| Sensory
(touch)= 1
Time=
5
Intensity=
Habit= |
Sensory
(smell)= 1
Time=
2
Intensity=
Habit= |
Sensory
(taste)= 1
Time=
1
Intensity=
Habit= |
Fantasy
(imagery)= 1
Time=
2
Intensity=
Habit= |
Orgasm=
1
Time=
8
Intensity=
Habit= |
INTENSITY
(10-1, 0)
Whereas Time's threshold can be seen as a gradual incline
coming to an abrupt end, Intensity's threshold is one of peaks
and valleys. An example would be the act of a woman receiving
oral sex. Should her partner lick too fast, or too slow...be
too rough or too gentle...too much pressure or not enough pressure...it
all effects the intensity of the pleasure that she is capable
of experiencing. Turning that around, her partner's stimulation
is also effected by the intensity of different elements. Should
the woman have too strong a smell, or too bitter of a taste...the
intensity of these Sensory elements will reduce the overall
stimulation that is experienced. Again, in situations where
the threshold has been reached, and thus the experience is no
longer pleasurable (and most likely unpleasant and/or painful),
a "0" will be entered.
In
reality, the effects of Intensity will vary throughout the sexual
act. Here, we will set our numerical values to correspond with
the height of a single point in the ritual.
The
following values will be assigned to the Intensity filter (Intensity)
of each element:
| Sensory
(visual)= 3
Time=
8
Intensity=
8
Habit= |
Suspense=
2
Time=
4
Intensity=
7
Habit= |
Danger=
2
Time=
4
Intensity=
6
Habit= |
Fantasy
(delusional)= 2
Time=
7
Intensity=
4
Habit= |
Accomplishment=
2
Time=
9
Intensity=
3
Habit= |
| Sensory
(touch)= 1
Time=
5
Intensity=
7
Habit= |
Sensory
(smell)= 1
Time=
2
Intensity=
2
Habit= |
Sensory
(taste)= 1
Time=
1
Intensity=
1
Habit= |
Fantasy
(imagery)= 1
Time=
2
Intensity=
5
Habit= |
Orgasm=
1
Time=
8
Intensity=
7
Habit= |
HABITUATION
(10-1)
Unlike the other two filters, Habituation is assigned a higher
number the farther away the specific element is to the saturation
point. There is no zero, as the scope of the stimulation ranges
from novelty (high number) to neutrality (low number)-rarely,
if ever does someone become so saturated from a certain stimulus
that is actually becomes painful. Let us examine the act of
pornography as it relates to Habituation.
When
one begins to look at pornography on the Internet (again, we
are referring to a single act, not an extended pattern), there
is usually an extreme high that comes with the initial search
for the most stimulating photos/videos/cams. Frequently, behaviors
like fantasy and masturbation accompany the viewing of pornography.
But eventually, after viewing hundreds (or thousands) of men/women
in a single sitting, habituation sets in and the images begin
to lose their effect. Eventually, the effect has worn off almost
completely, and this once stimulating image now produces no
more adrenaline than a picture of milk. This is habituation.
The
following values will be assigned to the Habituation filter
(Habit) of each element:
| Sensory
(visual)= 3
Time=
8
Intensity=
8
Habit=
9 |
Suspense=
2
Time=
4
Intensity=
7
Habit=
9 |
Danger=
2
Time=
4
Intensity=
6
Habit=
3 |
Fantasy
(delusional)= 2
Time=
7
Intensity=
4
Habit=
8 |
Accomplishment=
2
Time=
9
Intensity=
3
Habit=
10 |
| Sensory
(touch)= 1
Time=
5
Intensity=
7
Habit=
7 |
Sensory
(smell)= 1
Time=
2
Intensity=
2
Habit=
4 |
Sensory
(taste)= 1
Time=
1
Intensity=
1
Habit=
2 |
Fantasy
(imagery)= 1
Time=
2
Intensity=
5
Habit=
6 |
Orgasm=
1
Time=
8
Intensity=
7
Habit=
10 |
The
next step is to multiply each filter by the element's value,
then add the total per element. Note: you can obtain the same
effect using any number of mathematical calculations; this one
is used only to provide a simple way of reinforcing the concept
that each filter plays a significant role in understanding the
stimulation produced by each element. Also, that each element
plays a significant role in understanding the stimulation produced
by the act as a whole. Performing the calculations as described
above, we have the sum score of each element in red:
| Sensory
(visual)= 3
Time
8 x 3 = 24
Intensity
8 x 3 = 24
Habit
9 x 3 = 27
24
+ 24 + 27=75 |
Suspense=
2
Time
4 x 2 = 8
Intensity
7 x 2 = 14
Habit
9 x 2 = 18
8
+ 14 + 19 =
41 |
Danger=
2
Time
4 x 2 = 8
Intensity
6 x 2 = 12
Habit
3 x 2 = 6
8
+ 12 + 6 =
26 |
Fantasy
(delusional)= 2
Time
7 x 2 = 14
Intensity
4 x 2 = 8
Habit
8 x 2 = 16
14
+ 8 + 16 = 38 |
Accomplishment=
2
Time
9 x 2 = 18
Intensity
3 x 2 = 6
Habit
10 x 2 = 20
18
+ 6 + 20 =
44 |
| Sensory
(touch)= 1
Time
5 x 1 = 5
Intensity
7 x 1 = 7
Habit
7 x 1 = 7
5
+ 7 + 7 =
19 |
Sensory
(smell)= 1
Time
2 x 1 = 2
Intensity
2 x 1 = 2
Habit
4 x 1 = 4
2
+ 2 + 4 =
8 |
Sensory
(taste)= 1
Time=
1
Intensity=
1
Habit=
2
1
+ 1 + 2 = 4 |
Fantasy
(imagery)= 1
Time=
2
Intensity=
5
Habit=
6
2
+ 5 + 6 = 13 |
Orgasm=
1
Time=
8
Intensity=
7
Habit=
10
8
+ 7 + 10 =
25 |
The
final step in measuring the overall stimulation of a ritualistic
chain is to divide each element's sum by the total number of
elements in the chain (triangles). In this case, there were
ten, so each number will be divided by 10. (Numbers will be
rounded up for simplicity.)
| Sensory
(visual)= 3
Time
8 x 3 = 24
Intensity
8 x 3 = 24
Habit
9 x 3 = 27
24
+ 24 + 27=75
75/10=
7.5 |
Suspense=
2
Time
4 x 2 = 8
Intensity
7 x 2 = 14
Habit
9 x 2 = 18
8
+ 14 + 19 = 41
41/10=
4.1 |
Danger=
2
Time
4 x 2 = 8
Intensity
6 x 2 = 12
Habit
3 x 2 = 6
8
+ 12 + 6 = 26
26/10=
2.6 |
Fantasy
(delusional)= 2
Time
7 x 2 = 14
Intensity
4 x 2 = 8
Habit
8 x 2 = 16
14
+ 8 + 16 = 38
38/10=
3.8 |
Accomplishment=
2
Time
9 x 2 = 18
Intensity
3 x 2 = 6
Habit
10 x 2 = 20
18
+ 6 + 20 = 44
44/10=
4.4 |
| Sensory
(touch)= 1
Time
5 x 1 = 5
Intensity
7 x 1 = 7
Habit
7 x 1 = 7
5
+ 7 + 7 = 19
19/10=
1.9 |
Sensory
(smell)= 1
Time
2 x 1 = 2
Intensity
2 x 1 = 2
Habit
4 x 1 = 4
2
+ 2 + 4 = 8
8/10=
.8 |
Sensory
(taste)= 1
Time=
1
Intensity=
1
Habit=
2
1
+ 1 + 2 = 4
4/10=
.4 |
Fantasy
(imagery)= 1
Time=
2
Intensity=
5
Habit=
6
2
+ 5 + 6 = 13
13/10=
1.3 |
Orgasm=
1
Time=
8
Intensity=
7
Habit=
10
8
+ 7 + 10 = 25
25/10=
2.5 |
The
numbers in green represent the total amount of stimulation provided
by each element. As
you can see, each element adds to the overall level of stimulation
produce by the act being performed. The overall stimulation
rating for this particular ritualistic chain could be measured
by adding the score of each individual element above: 7.5 +
4.1 + 2.6 + 3.8 + 4.4 + 1.9 + .8 + .4 + 1.3 + 2.5 = 29.3 overall
stimulation rating. This information leads to the following
"cookie" for this particular chain of behaviors:

Again,
to "measure" the total amount of stimulation provided
by this particular chain (or cookie), you simply add the amount
of stimulation produced by each individual element. In this
particular case, the overall stimulation produced by the voyeuristic
act described above is: 29.3. Now originally, Dave was able
to produce a level of 30.1 with his more simple fantasizing,
but because of Habituation, a further expansion of other elements
(or increases in their intensity, time) was needed to generate
similar feelings.
To
Summarize...
In
the beginning stages of an addiction, a single element has the
ability to produce high levels of stimulation. Thus few elements
are needed to propel the addict into a mind-altered state. As
habituation sets in the person involved in such a compulsive
act becomes more and more accustomed to the stimulation. The
ritual's ability to produce the same level of stimulation decreases,
creating the need for additional elements (or a fine-tuning
of the filters--such as increasing the time spent engaged in
the activity, or increasing the Intensity of certain elements).
The compulsive person manages the ritual's emotional stimulation
by increasing the time spent engaged in these behaviors, by
increasing the intensity (such as the danger of being caught),
and by increasing the number of elements involved in the behavioral
chain.
There
comes a point, even as the addict perfects his ritualistic chains,
when the stimulative value will not be enough to reach the highs
that are needed to feel adequate relief. It is at this point
where additional ritualistic chains are added (or significantly
expanded). Their values are calculated in much the same manner
as the initial chain, with one exception: when dividing additional
chains, the divisor is not the number of elements in that particular
ritual, but the number of elements in that, and all previous
rituals associated with that specific session of stimulation.
For example, if Dave (the person involved in voyeuring) completed
his ten-element chain, yet feelings of anxiety remained, he
might add another ritualistic chain to the session. Let's suppose
he went home and masturbated. While doing this, he fantasized
that he was engaged in lovemaking with the girl who had just
moved in. When he climaxed, he did so directly into her panties.
The elements to this new chain are as follows:
Primary:
Orgasm (in this particular case, it is the primary behavior
because he actually set out to ejaculate onto something she
owned; and Fantasy (the entire ritual was geared towards the
fantasies that Dave was having towards this girl).
Secondary:
Sensory (touch)--the need to orgasm brought about the need to
masturbate; Accomplishment--achieving orgasm brought about the
feelings of accomplishment
Accessory:
Past--the memories of having seen her get ready for bed
produced a heightened fantasy, as did the panties.
Measuring
this new chain, we have:
| Orgasm
= 3
Time:
9 x 3 = 27
Intensity:
8 x 3 = 24
Habit:
9 x 3 = 27
27
+ 24 + 27=78
78/15=
5.2 |
Fantasy
= 3
Time
7 x 3 = 21
Intensity
9 x 3 = 27
Habit
6 x 3 = 18
21
+ 27 + 18 = 66
66/15=
4.4 |
Sensory
= 2
Time
4 x 2 = 8
Intensity
6 x 2 = 12
Habit
3 x 2 = 6
8
+ 12 + 6 = 26
26/15=
1.7 |
Accomplishment
= 2
Time
7 x 2 = 14
Intensity
4 x 2 = 8
Habit
8 x 2 = 16
14
+ 8 + 16 = 38
38/15=
2.5 |
Past
= 1
Time
4 x 1 = 4
Intensity
3 x 1 = 3
Habit
8 x 1 = 8
4
+ 3 + 8 = 15
15/15=
1.0 |
Notice
that the biggest difference between the original chain and this
one is that the divisor in the original chain equaled the number
of elements in that chain only, whereas the divisor in this
secondary chain includes not only these elements, but those
of the previous chain as well. This is imperative, as the overall
stimulation that is produced tends to decrease as the ritualistic
behavior expands. Eventually, it requires an almost constant
state of ritualism to maintain the same level of stimulation
that once came easily. In the above example, the additional
ritualistic chain actually added 14.8 to the original 29.3 rating
of overall stimulation. This is key to understanding the progressive
nature of addictions and compulsive behavior. The progression
never ends until a conscious decision is made to end it. Even
then, a conscious effort must be made to find alternative ways
of providing that stimulation, or one will simply find themselves
engaged in other compulsive behavior.
Let's
consider one more example, this one from a person who continually
finds themselves engaging in sexually compulsive behavior with
strangers. Each element of the wheel, in order to be measured
effectively, must first be filtered through Time, Intensity
and Habituation. Take the act of engaging in promiscuous sexual
activity with a stranger. Some of the possible elements that
are involved would be: danger, past, sensory and accomplishment.
For each of these elements, there will be four numerical values
assigned. The first number will be either a 1, 2 or 3--depending
on whether the behavior is considered to be a Primary, Secondary
or Accessory behavior (your opinion). The last three numbers
will be assigned to represent the effect that each filter has
on the element being measured.
Our
initial chain might look like this:
| Danger
= 3
Time:
4
Intensity:
8
Habit:
3
12
+ 24 + 9=45
45/4=11.3 |
Past
= 2
Time:
1
Intensity:
2
Habit:
3
2
+ 4 + 6=12
12/4=
3 |
Accomplishment
= 2
Time:
9
Intensity:
8
Habit:
9
18
+ 16 + 18 = 52
52/4=
13 |
Sensory
(touch)= 1
Time:
0
Intensity:
2
Habit:
1
0
+ 2 + 1=3
3/4=
.8 |
These
numbers are arbitrary, as they are based solely on one's perceptions.
The same exact behaviors that provide a "8.3" rating
can provide someone else a stimulation rating of ".02"
or "37". The numbers only have relevance when used
to examine a specific behavior chain involving a particular
individual.
In
this particular behavior chain, let's examine the element of
Danger. Let us say that, because Danger is the main element
that triggers the need to engage in sex with a complete stranger,
it will be assigned the number "3". Depending on the
individual, it could very easily have been Past (should the
person be reliving past sexual abuse) or some other element--for
this discussion, it is what drives the main behavior. The next
step is to filter the stimulation produced by the element of
Danger through Time. There is a certain threshold for Time that
elevates the arousal of the stimulation being produced. It could
be a few minutes (which is why some people need to have sex
within an hour or so of meeting this person before the "stranger"
label wears off), or the threshold could be reached after several
hours (or days, weeks or months). The closer the element of
danger is in the ritualistic behavior, the higher the assigned
number will be (1-10). If the threshold is surpassed, then the
stimulation that is produced is lost, and so a "0"
is assigned. An example of surpassing the Danger threshold is
staying with a "stranger" long enough to know that
there is no danger involved. The next filter to consider will
be Intensity--which will come through the situation itself (how
dangerous is it?). When the element surpasses the threshold
of intensity (say, when you are physically raped or tortured--and
so the element no longer produces arousal), a "0"
is assigned. Finally, the filter of Habituation is considered.
This would apply to "how many times" you have participated
in this behavior in the past. The more times that you participate
in this particular element, the less stimulating it will become
(there are some exceptions to this, but as a rule of thumb...).
The first time that you have sex with a stranger will be significantly
more arousing than the thirtieth time.
Important!
What
is most important in understanding this "measuring"
of behavior, is that the focus is not on the exact numbers,
but rather, to grasp the concept of how the different elements
all come together to form chains that help your partner to produce
stimulation 'artificially'. Your partner manages his/her emotions
by altering the elements and/or filters involved in their behavioral
chains. Do not worry about being able to calculate an exact
number for each compulsive chain. For those who do understand
this concept, it will help you down the road...but it is not
essential. What is essential is that you understand how your
partner can effect the overall level of stimulation that your
partner's behavior produces.
In
the Recovery Workshop, those in recovery begin to use these
chains to identify, isolate and eliminate their own compulsive
behavior. Obviously, if your partner is involved with the Recovery
Workshop, it is important that you at least have an understanding
of what behavioral chains are and how to calculate their numerical
values. As you continue on, keep in mind that these values are
for the most part arbitrary, and are only meant to provide an
approximate representation of the stimulation that is produced
through certain actions. It is not meant to be an exact measurement.
The idea is to provide your partner with a platform to analyze
their behaviors and the ways that each element combines to affect
them.