Getting Started in the Partner's Healing Workshop

Note: The first phase of Recovery Nation's update is now being implemented/tested (the recovery side). I have already begun to work on the partner's side and will continue until it is also renovated to match the Couple's Guide. Until this update is complete, please disregard what is outlined below and continue instead to the original Partner's Zone.

Read the following carefully. It will lay out a step-by-step path for using this site to assist you in healing from your partner's addiction.

Step 1

Understand the tools you have available and how they work together to form a cohesive strategy for making a permanent transition in your life. The primary tools that this site offers for recovery are as follows:

• My Healing Checklist

  A free database-driven online checklist that allows you to track your progress throughout the healing process.

• My Healing Manager

  A database-driven online application that allows you to manage many of the critical tasks involved in healing. Here you will keep an evolving account of your values, goals, action plans, insights, health monitoring, etc.

• The Partner's Healing Workshop

  This self-guided workshop will provide you with the insights necessary to understand sexual addiction (and sexually compulsive behavior); assess the impact another's addiction has had on your life/values; establish a healthy boundary system; strengthen your values--including repairing those that have been damaged and more.

• Partner's Healing Forum

  A community-based support forum to assist you in overcoming obstacles, reinforcing your efforts and/or refining your approach to building a healthy life in the wake of another's addiction.

• Health Monitoring

  An evolution of the skills learned in the workshop, health monitoring is used to assist you in generating temporary focus and awareness; and to assess for times of emotional imbalance throughout the healing process.

• Personal Coaching

  For those who prefer a more personalized, professionally-supported healing path. Work directly with Jon (in understanding your partner's addiction/recovery process) and the rest of the partner's coaches (to build your own healthy, stable foundation) in a live, 1:1 setting.

• HBR: A Couple's Manual

  The definitive work on Health-Based Recovery, this manual was written for couples, but serves as the perfect accompaniment for those individuals seeking a deeper understanding of the issues presented in the recovery and partner's workshops. Also ideal for those individuals seeking to build healthy romantic relationships/partnerships in the future.

• He Danced Alone: Inside the Heart and Mind of the Sex/Love Addict

  The autobiography of Jonathan Marsh, written to educate those with little experience in the sex/love addictions as to just how severe these patterns can become; and for those with severe addictions to the reality that no one is beyond help. That what they are experiencing is a logical pattern (involving illogical behavior), it is not a fate.

• Recovery Nation Newsletter

  This monthly newsletter is sent free to all who request it and provides general education to the sex, love and porn addictions, recovery insights, experiences, updates and community news. You may subscribe to this resource by entering your information to the left.

• Community/Group Training

  On occasion, coaches will provide free structured training to the community. These trainings are typically structured in one-hour increments--with the thirty minutes being education and the second questions & answers. Topics can involve anything related to recovery and/or healing. Announcements will be made at least a week in advance in the Forums and Newsletter.

• Community/Group Support

  We are currently searching for software that will allow weekly online support groups to take place in a safe and secure environment. In the past, we have used Webinar for such groups, but that proved too cumbersome for larger groups. When this feature becomes available, we will notify the community in the newsletter and forum.

Step 2

Determine whether or not you want professional coaching throughout your participation in the workshop ($270/complete), or whether you will be doing it on your own (free). For more information and/or to register for Personal Coaching, click here.

If you will be using professional coaching to support your transition to health, proceed to Steps 3,4 & 5. Otherwise, proceed to Step 6.

Step 3 (for personal coaching only)

Electronically sign the online Coaching Agreement. Read and sign this agreement by clicking here.

Step 4 (for personal coaching only)

Complete the comprehensive assessment for partners. This is an in-depth assessment of both your sexual values, boundaries and behavior...as well as your partners. The purpose of this assessment is to guide your healing by identifying major conflicts, potential damage and potential obstacles that will need to be addressed in coaching. To begin the comprehensive assessment, click here.

Step 5 (for personal coaching only)

Schedule your first coaching session by clicking here.

Step 6

Establish your Healing Checklist and begin using it help you monitor your progress throughout the workshop. This database-driven application was developed through donations to the community and is offered free to everyone. You can set up your checklist by clicking here. You are strongly encouraged to use the same User Name and Password as used in the forums.

Step 7

Establish your Healing Manager and begin using it as your personal control panel for managing the most important aspects of your healing. Here, you will maintain active action plans, respond to lesson exercises, monitor goals, define boundaries, prioritize values and more. You can set up your manager by clicking here.

Step 8

Begin the Partner's Workshop. It is a self-guided workshop that involves the combination of intellectual insights and practical skill development. You can begin the workshop by clicking here.

Step 9

Register for the Partner's Healing Forum and begin using it to ask questions, posts insights, share experiences, etc. This is your direct line of communication to free coaching, guidance and more. Use it. There are no obstacles that you face that others have not already experienced and overcome--use that experience for your own development. To register for the Partner's Forum, click here.