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 Post subject: Abstaining
PostPosted: Sun Sep 16, 2018 6:40 pm 

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My H is about a month into recovery. We have been physical when I feel like it's intimate and I feel ok to.
The past few weeks my H is very busy in his grad program so we haven't gotten to spend much time together. 2 nights ago he came on to me during the middle of the night and I knew it wasn't coming from a place out of love from him so I stopped and got up to sleep in the other room. The next morning my H apologized to me and admitted he had been feeling like we weren't in a good place and it started with him kissing me to be intimate but then it turned into him objectifying me and wanting sex with me to feel better about himself. This hurt me so bad, but I guess I'm glad he is being honest with me and himself.
He feels really bad about this and now doesn't feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed as me and wants to abstain from being physical. He says he doesn't deserve me and that he's afraid he may do it again.

I want to be supportive. I'm just struggling with feeling insecure and feeling like he doesn't want me.

Have any of you experienced this? What can I do to be supportive? I find myself wanting to seduce him to prove to myself he does want me. I know that's not healthy. I mean all of this is unhealthy. Help.

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