HONESTY AWARENESS
With
sexual addiction, a major obstacle to overcome is honesty
(with yourself). Just as with all compulsive behavior,
games are played that allow you to minimize, justify and/or
rationalize your behavior. Often, to be effective, these
games require that you deceive yourself. Be aware of them
and document them as they occur.
1) How well did you maintain awareness of every urge
you experienced today?
Example:
'Every time I saw an attractive woman today, I actively
explored my emotions and looked for 'the point of no return'';
or, 'I had six urges today, but only explored my emotions
on four of them--the other two I simply reacted to my
emotions and engaged in my rituals."
2)
List the definitive 'point of no return' for all urges
experienced today.
Remember,
identifying them with specificity and objectivity is key.
Also, even though this point is labeled a 'point of no
return'...that is a figurative label. You are still responsible
to fight the completion of every ritual you engage in
with all of the tools in your arsenal.
3)
List one mind game that you became aware of today. This
does not have to have occurred during an actual urge/ritual.
Note:
If you have maintained absolute honesty with yourself
today--and no games were identified--then , describe a
time in the past when you have used such a 'mind game'.
It may get difficult, once the overt games have been identified,
to identify the more subtle games that you play...so really
search deep.
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