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 Post subject: rds417healingthread
PostPosted: Mon Nov 20, 2017 1:49 pm 

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Exercise 1

The first time I caught my husband looking a porn on line. I cried he was sorry and he said he was glad I caught him because he couldn't stop. That was it.

I caught my husband on craigslist talking to other women years ago. He said it was only taking and he had not physically touched anyone. So I thought ok this isn't really cheating. We move forward raising children and living life.

I found some odd emails on his computer and at that time he admitted to not only talking to women but having sex with women while their husbands watched. We got into couples counseling. We went to counseling and it seemed to help. Its been years since I have found anything to be concerned about.

Life has been pretty good I thought, our children are grown, we are making planes to remodel our house, and just got back from a 10 days vacation in the sun and sand.

Less than a month after we got back from vacation I found an email on his computer that again he has been contacting people on craigslist.

My life is crashed to say the least. I am in shock.

Hoping Recovery Nations resources can help me piece my life back together.

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 Post subject: rds417healingthread
PostPosted: Mon Nov 20, 2017 9:51 pm 

Joined: Sat Nov 18, 2017 10:34 pm
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Exercise 2
Waking each day at 5:30 am, first thing spending quiet time with God. Reading my daily devotions and journeling my thoughts and things I'm learning and feeling. Start sending an encouraging quote to the kids on Monday morning to start their week. After quiet time make my coffee press and get ready for yoga. At a least 3 times a week Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday.
Work on not being in such a hurry that I run out of the door in the morning without saying good bye, love you and hugs.
Along with that line of thought, pay better attention to stop and listen when the girls want to talk, or at least say can you give me 5 min. and Ill call you right back. And then remember to call back.
Get out and have fun once a week and take line dancing with my sisters and friends. It will be so good to laugh again.
I will continue to go to church on Sunday and finish the class I am taking for personal growth. After this class is complete I will start attending a 12 step group for support at my church.
Plant my garden in the spring, it's therapy for me to get my hands in the dirt and watch beautiful things grow from such small beginnings.
The kids have been asking me to do horse camps again, so I will start small and have a Christmas bonfire first. In the summer of 2018 I will plan a weekend horse camp but keep it small.
Find time to sit on the beach next summer.
Start a "car club" small group at church in the spring. I love to gather people to have fun, laugh and build new friendships.
My finances were on point this year so I will continue the budget I have layed out and grow my savings account next year.
Making my home a safe haven of peace where my family will know they are loved always and prayed for is my hearts desire.
Thank you for this exercise to let me see that there is hope for my future.

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