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PostPosted: Sat Apr 07, 2018 5:34 am 

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Together for 26 years and married for 9. Four discoveries over the years. All escalations: from finding pornographic materials (all adult images) to the most recent discovery about three weeks ago of him meeting up with a long term cybersex partner for oral sex. There's more to discover in time, I have no doubt at all!

Husband is now attending therapy. He has explained to me that his addiction predates our relationship. This is the first time that he has attended therapy, and the first time that he hasn't dismissed, minimised or rationalised it all away. I have had gut feelings and bad dreams for as long as I can remember and whenever I have discussed them my fears were always met with reassurance and I always went away thinking I was just an extremely insecure person. He is the most supportive, generous and kind man. This addiction has literally been like a tornado tearing through our lives.

Only my sister and one mutual friend know what is happening. Both were absolutely stunned and shocked that this was happening. Both commented that it all seemed so out of character, and would never in a million years have imagined such a thing about him.

He now accepts via assessments and therapy that he has SA, and says he is committing to recovery whether we stay together or not.

We have one young child together, and for me, this makes things the most complicated. I commence my own therapy this week.

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